Top 6 Weekend Picks: Palm Beach County

Top 6 picks for Friday the 13th weekend in West Palm Beach:

1. Stacey Konwiser Memorial Save the Tiger 5K

Sat, May 14

7:30am

Run or walk to save the Malayan Tiger.

With an estimated 300 Malayan Tigers in the wold, they are the most endandgered of the 5 remaining species of tigers. The Palm Beach Zoo works closely with the Wildlife Conservation Society (WCS), supporting species, habitat research and protection at Endau-Rompkin National Park in Malaysia. A portion of each race registration fee helps fund the involvement with WCS.

On Saturday, May 14th you’ll run or walk through the gorgeous paths of Dreher Park and finish the race inside the Palm Beach Zoo, passing the Tiger River Habitat where 2 of the 4 Malayan Tigers reside. You can also look forward to spotting wallabies, fennec foxes, new guinea singing dogs and siamang gibbons on your way to the finish line at Fountain Plaza.

Registration Fee includes admission to the Zoo for the day and discount coupons for friends and family to join you in exploring the Palm Beach Zoo later in the day.

A wonderful experience for the entire family, register at: http://www.palmbeachzoo.org/save-the-tiger-5k-2016

Save the Tiger 4 K
2. Lake Worth Sidewalk Sale

Sat, May 14

10am – 4pm

Every second Saturday of the month, Lake Worth merchants will be selling their wares alongside artists and community neighbors. Look for treasures, bargains and specials as well as tasty tidbits to nosh on.  Musicians and street artists will be showcasing their talents.  Also, Non-profits will be sharing schedules of events taking place throughout the coming season.

Residents and Artists of Lake Worth, who wish to participate, may bring up to three card tables filled with their treasures. The price per table is $10 for Lake Worth Residents and $15 for non-residents.  Table reservations and payments may be made at Studio 205, 600 Lake Avenue, 561-533-5272.

3. Guided Paddling Tour at Jonathan Dickinson State Park

Fri, May 13

9:45am to 12:00pm EDT

Explore the natural wonders of the Loxahatchee River. Rent a canoe or kayak at the park’s River Store or bring your own and join us for a fun and leisurely paddle. Registration is required.

Park entry fees apply.

Canoe rental $17 for 2 hours, each additional hour is $5.

Single Kayak $15 for 2 hours, each additional hour is $6.

Double Kayak $20 for 2 hours, each additional hour is $6.

More Information:
Kimbell Education Center (561) 745-5551

Located in the Southeast region at:
Jonathan Dickinson State Park 16450 S.E. Federal Highway Hobe Sound, FL 33455

http://www.jdstatepark.com/boat-tours/
http://www.jdstatepark.com/boat-tours/

4. Beginner’s Tai Chi at Mandel Public Library of West Palm Beach

Fri, May 13th

11:00am

Come to the Mandel Public Library of West Palm Beach for an introduction to tai chi. Learn the benefits of tai chi and how it can relax, energize & balance you! Beginning tai chi lessons will be held every Friday morning at 11:00AM in the library’s Auditorium. Optional donations accepted by instructor at time of class. For more information, contact the library at 561-868-7701.

http://wpbcitylibrary.org

411 Clematis Street, West Palm Beach, FL 33401

Learn Tai Chi at the Mandel Public Library

5. Sushi & Stroll Summer Walk Series at Morikami Museum and Japanese Gardens

Fri, May 13

5:30pm-8:30pm

On select Friday evenings (from 5:30-8:30pm) throughout the summer, the Morikami Museum and Japanese Gardens invite you to experience and explore Japanese gardens, cold drink in hand. Sip craft sake selections – some sweet, sparkling, creamy, or even in a can – that you might not find anywhere else in South Florida.

Visitors are also invited to indulge in Pan-Asian cuisine from Morikami’s Cornell Café (not included in admission price,) shop in the Museum Store and enjoy roaring taiko drum performances by Fushu Daiko at 6:30PM, 7:15PM and 8:00PM (additional $2, limited tickets available.)

4000 Morikami Park Rd.
Delray Beach, FL 33446

Sushi & Stroll
Sushi & Stroll

6. Delray Beach Craft Beer Fest 

Fri, May 13

6:30pm-10:30pm

Craft the perfect night out in Delray Beach! Old School Square celebrates art and culture in many forms… including the art of a well-crafted beer! DELRAY BEACH CRAFT BEERFEST will mark its fifth year as a signature fundraiser supporting community programs and outdoor concerts. VIP EARLY ACCESS: 6:30 p.m. Ticket holders will have exclusive tasting of all beers and wines from 6:30 to 7:30 p.m. Ticket includes a commemorative tasting mug, and featured tap releases – ONLY 500 VIP TICKETS ARE AVAILABLE. GENERAL ADMISSION: 7:30 p.m. ADVANCE TICKETS: $50 VIP / $35 GEN; 21 and over WHAT TO EXPECT: +BEER TASTING!

Unlimited sampling of more than 100 craft brews, international beers and ciders from national, local and home brewers. +DJ and LIVE MUSIC – A mix of music will be the backdrop for sampling. Then at 9 p.m. the headlining band will hit the Pavilion the stage and turn things up a notch! +WINE TASTING courtesy of popular vintners with several varietals each +PUB BITES for purchase +PHOTO BOOTH for animated fun shots to share on social media +LIVE ART – Plans are in the works! +GAME AREA – Try your luck! +CASH BAR – Mixed drinks, shots, Red Bull and water (no beer for sale) Click here to purchase tickets. oldschoolsquare.org/events/delray-beach-craft-beer-fest/

Delray Beach Craft Beer Fest

Hoping you have a telescope -Love, Alex

China Olympics Beijing Water Cube Bird's Nest
(031816) Explanation: Sporting a surprisingly bright, lovely green coma Comet 252P/Linear poses next to the Large Magellanic Cloud in this southern skyscape. The stack of telephoto exposures was captured on March 16 from Penwortham, South Australia. Recognized as a Jupiter family periodic comet, 252P/Linear will come close to our fair planet on March 21, passing a mere 5.3 million kilometers away. That’s about 14 times the Earth-Moon distance. In fact, it is one of two comets that will make remarkably close approaches in the next few days as a much fainter Comet Pan-STARRS (P/2016 BA14) comes within 3.5 million kilometers (9 times the Earth-Moon distance) on March 22. The two have extremely similar orbits, suggesting they may have originally been part of the same comet. Sweeping quickly across the sky because of their proximity to Earth, both comets will soon move into northern skies. Mandatory Courtesy of Justin Tilbrook/Nasa.gov

At 10:30a.m. (EDT) Tuesday morning, comet P/2016 BA14 will pass within 2.1 million miles of the earth.

The emerald green-colored comet will generally require a telescope to be seen, but may even be visible to the unaided eye in southern hemisphere suburbs where light pollution is very low.

Paul Chodas, NASA’s Center of NEO Studies (CNEOS) at the Jet Propulsion Laboratory in Pasadena, says “this will be the third closest flyby of a comet in recorded history. March 22 will be the closest comet P/2016 BA14 gets to us for at least the next 150 years.”

So, really, do you have a telescope?

Would love to see this.

Lemme Know!

Love,
Alex

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Here’s lookin’ at you, Sammy Brue

The young Brue writes and delivers incredible melodic stories of heartache, self doubt and longing that common sense would argue impossible for a 14 year old. On stage, Sammy reveals exquisitely timed reminders of the seldom, yet beautiful showers of hope that fall to challenge despair of the human condition.

Sammy Brue is one of the most impressive musicians I’ve ever discovered.

and now, I would like to share this with you…

ReverbNation CONNECT act and The Watch List artist Sammy Brue will perform at the Studio Lounge Utah for one of the largest arts and film festivals, Sundance Film Festival! At 14-years of age, Sammy has already received praise by the likes of American Songwriter, and Rolling Stone declared him an “American Prodigy.” In the last year, Sammy performed at major festivals: Summerfest, The Newport Folk Festival, and New York’s week long music conference, CMJ.

Get more deets on Sammy’s show here and check out his latest single,” Once a Lover,” which premiered on The FADER.

Sausage Castle Commune Saves Christmas

Hello gorgeous. Hope you’re having a fabulous day😉

Ok, so about 30 miles outside Orlando sits  Sausage Castle, an infamous Juggalo Commune . The house is run by the alleged nephew of Gary Busey and is most commonly known for raunchy parties and controversial American flag usage.

The self proclaimed alternative family of outcasts is saving Christmas for kids in need and it is rather awesome.

Every Christmas the Sausage Castle crew orchestrates a unique way to give back to the community. In the months leading up to Christmas, SC raises money from everyone in the house, their friends, even the pool guy, all to buy toys for kids of families in need.

Gleefully risking a variety of potential poisonings, Big LA morphs himself into Olaf from Frozen to bring the kids a white Christmas by having his 500lbs+ body spray painted white.

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Mike (Gary Busey’s maybe nephew) wraps himself in lights and garland, tucking the battery under an ample man boob. 

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“Mike and Kace, the lesbian Juggalette feminist, have been planning their charity event for months. “I’m the hood Oprah,” Mike says. “I’m the real Robin Hood.” This year, they chose a child whose legs had been amputated due to a birth defect with his spine and a nine-year-old with Down’s Syndrome to buy presents for. Inside Walmart, they shop with an overweight comedian named Miguel. Kace and Mike purchase the kids Star Wars toys, paint supplies, and BB guns.

The Sausage Castle spends hundreds of dollars on gifts at Walmart. Throughout December, they collected donations from everyone from their pool man to Jenny Jizz, the amateur porn star who gave blowjobs to veterans on Veteran’s Day in thanks for their service. The Sausage Castle’s male members possess a deep emotional connection to Christmas.

“I’m gonna cry,” Mike says.

Broadly

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Once JB finishes opening presents, Mike takes him outside, where he puts on his Darth Vader mask and runs across the porch on his arms.

Check out the full article on Broadly

Sausage Castle family, I wish you all the happiest of Holiday Seasons and thank you for this rad Christmas charity tradition.

UO goes rogue with pizza chain acquisition

Shoppers are pictured outside a Urban Outfitters store in Pasadena

For over a decade, the diversification tactics of UO have been impressive, appropriate and successful. Keeping hipsters, hippies and fashionistas happy under the same virtual roof, they’ve expanded in a gardening-focused offshoot named Terrain and a wedding and luxury brand (BHLDN). These products are sold in UO retail locations, as well as their Anthropologie store chain.

Smart.

Those were rational business model expansions that fueled an increase across the board in sales, store traffic, brand popularity and stock value. The sales of UO furnishings and urban gardening alternatives rose from 15% to 48% within just 8 months during 2007. This was the same year UO received the Global Award for Excellence from the Urban Land Institute and launched the Terrain brand. In 2008, they took home the Best In Show and People’s Choice Award for Terrain from the Philadelphia Flower Show.

Super smart.

Urban Outfitters announced on Monday (Nov. 16) that it would be acquiring Philadelphia’s Vetri Family restaurants, including the Pizzeria Vetri chain. UO Company stock immediately dropped 7.4% and shares fell upwards of 20% in the two sessions immediately following the release. The undisclosed amount spent on this 7 restaurant acquisition (including Pizzeria Vetri, named by Food & Wine as the nation’s best pizza restaurant) is suggested to be hovering between $50 and $100 million.

Not the smartest.

Shareholders are understandably concerned and even more confused following the events of the week. UO has released several statements since Monday, boasting confidence that this acquisition, “although unique” is a “perfect match” for Urban Outfitters to gain market share as a lifestyle brand.

Strange.

The reassurance PR isn’t doing much to ease these concerns. Sales for the previous 3 quarters have fallen below projections for UO. Decreasing revenue paired with a 7 restaurant acquisition to the tune of $50-$100 million is certainly a UNIQUE decision.

Super strange.

What are your thoughts?

Is the UO #FashionablePizza

initiative brilliant beyond our current business model understanding… or a poorly disguised desperation for market diversification?

Save the Man Bun

Groupon Features Clip In Man Bun

For the Man Who Wears Many Hats, but No Bun

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One of the hottest trends in men’s fashion, the man bun has been popularized by fixed-gear bicyclists and introspective Hollywood actors alike. But although the hairstyle oozes with fashion sense, those who sport it might find themselves outcasts in sports bars, motorcycle gangs, and the annual government-mandated machismo test. This attachable—and, equally important, detachable—man bun lets you blend in with your surroundings, putting it on when you smell fair-trade coffee or hear a banjo, and taking it off when someone utters the word bro.

How To Wear It
  1. Comb your hair back toward the crown of your head, in a similar motion to lacquering a reclaimed-wood coffee table
  2. Attach the man bun to your natural hair the way the lay public attached itself to Arcade Fire
  3. Use bobby pins to secure the man bun, decide bobby pins are too mainstream, use antique paper clips instead
Specifics
  • Attachable hairpiece
  • Made of artificial hair
  • Product dimensions: 3” (dia) x 1” (H)
FROM $9.99  BUY!

This is wrong in so many ways. A genuine man bun is one of the last few ruggedly hot attributes of modern day men and it’s being hijacked.

In a country so flooded with men who ooze femininity in their mannerisms and personal hygiene practices, the clip in man bun is cruel trickery!

The man bun is attractive bc it’s usually attached to the head of a hot man who gives zero f—- about beauty products or faux accessories. Herein lies the sex appeal.

Men sporting these and women sleeping with those men, Cease and Desist. You’re destroying something beautiful.

#savethemanbun

The Red Thread

A poem by Rachel Jamison Webster reminds us of the “red string of fate,” a belief that certain people are destined to meet in this lifetime.

With some people, words just flow when you meet; it’s as if you’re picking up an ancient conversation that you’d forgotten about from centuries ago. It was this way with the person who introduced me to the red string, and I’ve met others who I’ve felt an uncanny connection with and walked away changed.

The potential existence of destiny and its role in our lives is rife for debate. Nevertheless, we all have our group of kindred spirits, those to whom we are bound by an invisible thread. This week, use the quote above from Webster’s poem as a source of inspiration. Tell the world about the cast of characters in your life, how they’ve affected you, and whether or not you believe in the idea that certain people are destined to play a role in your life.

Source: The Red Thread

10 Things to Say if You’re a Total Jerk

1. “You look tired.”

Urban Dictionary has this statement translated to a tee, “you look like shit.”

A rarely well-received insult. Just don’t say it. Seriously. When I’m tired, for example, there’s definitely no need to remind me. I’m well aware. If I was feeling quite fine and gleeful, you’ve now pissed me off with your insult. Best to avoid this one altogether.

Alternatively, if I’m feeling quite fine, gleeful and full of rest, you’ve now pissed me off with your insult.

Best to avoid this one altogether.

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2. “I’m sorry you feel that way.”

No explanation necessary. This is the most irritating, non-apology ever. Despite grand requests to avoid making such a disgusting display of manipulative, blame reversal word vomit, it haunts me like the plague.

Wikipedia: “Non-apology apology

This is not an apology, but it IS effective ammunition… and you know it, fuckers.😉

3. “You Always…” and/or “You Never…”

ohhhh I HATE.

“There are two reasons why overarching accusations are so toxic: First, they’re judgmental, and really, no one likes to be judged. Second, across-the-board generalizations like these are not only often inaccurate — all your partner has to do is find one example to make your statement untrue —but they also automatically put your partner on the defensive, relationship expert Wendy Walsh, PhD explains.

Ultimately, this derails the discussion rather than getting at the heart of the problem. (Can I get an Amen?!?!) “If you say, ‘You always do this,’ then the argument becomes ‘No, I don’t always do this’ instead of what the argument is really about,” says Walsh. “There’s no choice but to defend yourself.”

“If you say, ‘You always do this,’ then the argument becomes ‘No, I don’t always do this’ instead of what the argument is really about,” says Walsh. “There’s no choice but to defend yourself.”

This one actually occurred less than 2 hours ago. I addressed one specific issue. The response? “You’re always unhappy! No matter what I do, you’re never happy. You’re always mad at me!”

Let the record show: These “you always” and “you never” accusations came from someone who had just informed what a joy I brought to their life, how I was such an inspiration because of my nature, my smile, blah blah blah. This person had yet to even see me truly angry, raise my voice angry, which is pretty much his natural state, all. the time.

How can my nature and smile and spirit be an inspiration if now I’m suddenly always angry? Because making such a bold, ridiculous claim, as Dr. Walsh stated, the argument becomes ‘No, I don’t always do this’ instead of what the argument is really about,” which happened to be his thoughtless actions regarding a sensitive subject.

Pretty Much.

4. “This is why…..”

Oh my goodness, I got this one this morning too. Going for the gold here. I believe it was, “this is why I can’t talk to you.” (Impressive, right? It’s a double slap in the face.)

Phrases like “this is why I can’t get any sleep” or “this is why you’re so stressed”  (or, if you’re me, “this is why I can never talk to you”) can actually be expressions of contempt, and are toxic to a relationship, David Sbarra, PhD, associate professor in the Department of Psychology and director of clinical training at the University of Arizona he says.

Making your partner feel low or inferior to you is the most noxious of relationship behaviors. These remarks imply that you know it all — and you don’t. “You’re inferring you know the reason, but maybe that’s not the reason,” Sbarra says. In reality, saying “This is why…” just makes your partner feel like you don’t understand him or her.

5. “Was that good for you?”

I fully concur with the interpretation of this post-coital inquiry provided by AskMen.com:

Almost as bad a question as “How many people have you been with sexually” is the query “How was that?” right after sex. You could be the world’s worst lover and if the woman you’re having sex with loves you, she’ll lie and say you’re the best she ever had. She’ll lie, this time with words, instead of fake moans and groans.

Instead Say: “That was amazing.”

6. “Calm Down”

This usually comes from the person who initiated the exchange you are now taking part in, in a calm, inside voice.  Oh, man.

Take a hint from Men’s Fitness:

“Flash: women sometimes overreact to stuff. But when something’s upsetting her, telling a woman to calm down comes off as dismissive. Want to make things reallyinteresting? Tell her this while you’re already fighting. The surest way to ensure she never calms down is to tell her to calm down.”

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7. “Fine. You’re right. Whatever.”

“Our opinion matters because our spouse matters. When they ask for an opinion, shrugging it off with “whatever” is a tiny dart that tells our spouse we don’t value their question enough to give it thought and consideration. When we do that enough times, it adds up to our spouse feeling unworthy. Again, showing genuine interest in what our spouse is thinking about or concerning themselves with shows great love for them. Stop with the “whatevers.”

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8. “What more do you want from me?”

This needs no solidifying explanation. You get it.

9. “I think maybe we should break up.” or “I don’t think I can do this anymore.”

Say what you mean. Mean what you say.

This is a dangerous statement.

Why?  Because what he’ll/she’ll hear is:

– “I’m not happy.

– You’re not making me happy.

– What would make me happy is if we broke up.”

In the wanting to make you happy, he or she will shrug his shoulders and say, “Okay.”

The receiving party of this statement will immediately feel hurt, the guarded and understandably defensive. Confidence in the unit breaks here, warrantied with the choice of verbiage, casting the guilt of an unhappy life on the contending dumpee.

10. “We should start running together” or “We should get a puppy!

Here’s the deal… Promises are pointless. Actions are absolute.

If you suggest running as a couples activity, despite the fact that you hate running and somehow just never hopped on the 3 day a week cardio bandwagon, chances are you don’t want to. So don’t suggest it.

Talking about getting a pet? Be honest about your concerns or hesitations before your partner takes action as a result of your stated, yet fraudulent, intention.

“You might commit to such activities with the thought of exploring how things develop but your girlfriend might already be counting upon your dedication towards it. Unless, it becomes absolute unavoidable, abstain from such emotional obligations.” –MenXP

Hyperawareness

Zen Rampage
Hyper-perceptive Mind Guide

Becoming Overhuman

The mind can go either direction under stress – toward positive or toward negative: On or off. Think of it as a spectrum whose extremes are unconsciousness at the negative end and hyperconsciousness at the positive end. The way the mind will lean under stress is strongly influenced by training.

Hyperawareness is not only related to stressful events, even though its biggest quality lies in the fact that it can be present in high stress events. But hyperawareness is something that can be exercised and practiced in any situation, stressful or not. I describe hyperawareness as a sort of Zen Rampage mode. It’s an oxymoron, but for me it’s just that.

It is not a very pleasant experience. It includes quick change between thinking (deductions, analyses and so forth) and perception, observing the world around you. Even in observing, one does not simply relax and observe, but observes in quite a proactive way –…

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So long and thanks for all the food trucks

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Orlando and I have officially broken up.

We had a good run and I’ll always think back on these 18 months fondly, but truth be told, it was doomed from the start.

I debated taking a 2 hour drive just to smell the ocean the very first night we spent together, alone, craving the sounds of a crashing shoreline. She just stared vacantly at her congested interstate, silently proud of the raucous and comfortably far from the beaches I so desperately missed, content in coddling her elitist hipster disciples into the wee hours of the morning.

Sometimes, late at night, if you’re very quite, between Whiskey Dicks and Graffiti Junction, you can hear the city whispering to her occupants, reminding them to throw their skinny jeans in the dryer before leaving the house for optimal results in loss of circulation.

She had her moments, “The City Beautiful.” She did. These moments provided slivers of deliverance from the time spent basking in the arrogance of her daily achievements, manifesting the daily gatherings of intellectuals who desire nothing more than making their presence known at Stardust (an awesome little spot that just so happens to attract a certain breed, henceforth refered to as “Orlando Elitists”).

Ultimately, O-Town was just too far from everything I love and not nearly far enough from what I know to create the illusion of expanded horizons or new beginnings. A lesser version of home, really… and who wants a knock off when the real thing is just within reach.

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So long, O-Town.

Thanks for having me.

Forever it shall take

These eyes have seen such splendid sights
I have felt in my hands those glorious delights
of those daffodils growing six feet high
and reaching for the northern lights

The endless warm days of brightened blue skies
that shimmered the gold in mothers’ green eyes
A gift of new life that doubled the shine
of the moon as I knew as she winked at the night

I have wished for certain nights to never find end
for the oceans to part and the world to descend
While screaming at the sky in furious contempt
for a safe place to lay a child’s weary head

These feet have been content, I must say
to swerve and to sway,
to be walking briskly away
From rock to rock and from orchard to plain
leaving only footprints, taking only the same

This heart hears what it can’t yet comprehend
for this, my dear, is how it always has been

I know nothing of you,
not your laugh or your scent
Those hypnotizing eyes of yours,
I’ve most certainly not yet met

I know of you in blurred pixilated pieces,
in eventual exchanges of theological thesis’

Embedded in the red ink of love letters
Within the spinning of moons,
among planets and forevers

The memories of your unspoken verbs
echoed in tales I’ve not yet heard

Perhaps you are an ocean that runs far and wide
or the shivers and chills of a cold New York night

A grand canvas painting hung in a palace of Spain
or the sweet smell of cut grass just after the rain

Perhaps you are everything that cannot be named

These bones do now promise
as they never have before
Of this one thing unknown,
they are most certainly quite sure

Should you find me today
beneath this bright summer sky
or worlds away
on a brisk winter night

If it should take forever
then forever it shall take
This heart will faithfully wait for you
as only for you was it made

 Orig Pub 2009 – Yahoo! – Alexandra E. Gulkin

Sweet Sedation

It is a cold day in June
Hiding with my platoon
Never have felt so far from home
Never had known this brand of alone

This war I am in, so happily found
A battle constantly raging around
Helps to silence all the screams inside
Seems to muffle the guns that fire in mind

It is a cold day of June
Waiting with my platoon
How I wish a summer was coming soon
How I wish I did not demand so much from you

Yet I have and I do
And this you need know
Before all the world crumbles
and we’re the rubble below

I never was skilled in protecting this heart
Through the wearing and tearing and pulling apart
The killing outside is a sweet sedation
It reminds me that soon, I, Myself, will be taken

To where I won’t know the worry
Of endless cold Junes
Or the grenades in my heart
Planted in landmines’ of you

Orig. Pub 2009 – Yahoo! – Alexandra E. Gulkin

9 surefire ways to never receive another favor

An INC.article about gratitude was published today which I particularly appreciate.

You see, in the past few months, I’ve had an influx of accepting the responsibility of watching the pets of others (mainly, those of roommates).

I was much more willing to help the one who actually asked me if I would watch her dog than I was about lending a helping hand to the chick who disappeared for a week, leaving behind a flea-infested cat who had no food or water.

The girl who neglected her cat is, in fact, a certifiably, completely coo-coo for cocoa puffs, off her rocker, bat shit crazy kind of crazy. When she left Thunder (her cat) without any of the necessities required for his survival over Memorial Day Weekend, I wasn’t surprised. She’d already clearly shown that she was not concerned with the well being of her pet. Pushing the responsibility of your animal off on another person without any notice is, in itself, wildly inappropriate. Taking off without even asking if that person would be home to watch the cat and leaving the animal without any food or water and locked on a porch is just sick. To keep him alive, I purchased 2 bags of cat food and replenished his water until she returned. When asked to be reimbursed for the cat food I’d purchased, Rachael’s response was “I didn’t ask you to get him food. He’s an outdoor cat. He doesn’t need food.” (By the way, if anyone else is confused about this, just because you have a cat that goes outside doesn’t mean it suddenly has the instincts of a feral hunter. It’s safe to say that your indoor/outdoor cat is going to be relying on the food you give it for the remainder of its’ life, unless it has to survive strictly in the wild again. That’s how it works.)

Ultimately, as you may have guessed, she was unwilling to reimburse me for the “unnecessary” cat food purchase. Which is fine, as this was also expected. I didn’t care for these animals because of a compensation package. I did these things as a citizen of the universe, a person who believes that you should care and invest in the safe and healthy future of all living things. This is especially true if said living things are no longer capable of caring for themselves because we have “adopted” them and promised to keep them safe and healthy in our own self-fulfilling upper class captivity.

These 2 scenarios, one being a favor which was asked for and the other, an animal abuser who skipped town are in no way comparable to one another aside from the reality that a bit of gratitude would have been equally appreciated in both instances.

When someone does you a solid, be grateful.

Be genuinely grateful.

If you ever want a favor again.

Here are 9 easy ways to show a little gratitude and not come off like a spoiled brat.

9 Simple Ways You Can Show Appreciation

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Write It By Hand

An electronic thank you is ok for many…who will ultimately skim it, trash it, and move on. But if you take time and care to craft the perfect message of appreciation, why not write it nicely by hand? Finding a lovely card in the mailbox or on the desk is a nice surprise. And it increases the chance they’ll read your message with care.

Acknowledge an Absence

If someone goes on vacation or is out on sick or personal leave, that creates a vacuum. It is easy to be annoyed or resentful about the extra workload. Instead, happily pick up some of the slack, and when the person returns, tell them how much they were missed and that their particular contribution is important. They will work that much harder if they know others see and value their efforts.

Pick Up the Cup

A small gesture respecting someone’s comfort and convenience can mean a lot. If you’re heading by the break room, offer to take the other person’s empty coffee cup with you. If you’re dropping by accounting, offer to take their paperwork with yours. You’ll need to make sure the cup or file gets promptly to the appropriate destination, of course. The gesture requires little additional effort for you, but removes a burden for them and makes their day just a bit happier.

Give It Back

People often borrow small things on the spur of the moment—a pen, a stapler, a book, etc.—with the intention of returning them. But so many times one gets busy and forgets. The lender is stuck without a tool they need, and feels inconvenienced and annoyed. It only takes a moment to return an item you borrowed when you’re done with it.

Clean It Up

On a busy day, it is really tempting to leave your dishes in the break room sink or your files piled on the conference room table. You’ll come back and handle it in a few minutes…and five hours later, the mess is still there. Schedule 10 minutes into your lunch or meeting time so you can pick up after yourself. It shows everyone else you respect and appreciate their right to use the common spaces, too.

Offer Public Praise

It feels good to be told, “You did an awesome job” or “You look great today.” It feels even better to hear it in front of other people. Look for opportunities to pay small compliments at meetings, or in the hallway. Others will likely chime in, which exponentially increases the recipient’s pleasure.

Give Them a Do-Over

Even the best of us make mistakes, and slip-ups come in all flavors from saying the wrong thing to missing a deadline to clicking “send” too soon. Everyone deserves the chance at an occasionaldo-over so they can try to get back on track. Show people that you trust them to make things right.

Celebrate the Milestones

Birthdays are just the beginning. Work anniversaries, getting engaged, welcoming a child, successfully opening a new location—personal and professional milestones are important. Your colleagues probably don’t expect to be showered with gifts, but everyone likes when others remember the milestones and stop to say “congratulations” or “many happy returns!”

Leave a Lagniappe

lagniappe is a small, inexpensive gift. Drop one on a co-worker’s desk when you see them having a hard day: a flower, an origami crane, a hand-drawn doodle, or a smiley face on a post-it. Any small gesture can make a big difference.

 

Alternatively, choosing to avoid these 9 acts is a surefire way to guarantee you don’t receive any more favors, so if nothing else, you do have options…

Cheers!